Gay Dating Tips: Top 5 Dos & Don’ts for Gay Dating & Gay Hookup to Ensure Your Personal Safety
In this golden age of digital of Gay Dating and Gay Hooking Up, the prospect of a good time is never too far away, especially in a big city full of potential anonymous encounters.
It’s hard to ignore the lure of the wild, and the excitement of a new adventure – all with just a few quick taps of your mobile phone.
On the flipside, the danger of this anonymity is all too real – there have been reports of physical assault and even robbery at gunpoint from hookups that have gone terribly wrong.
On a lighter note, we’ve all heard our friends exchange horror stories of online hookups unfolding as tragi-comedies: catfish boy who looks nothing like his photos; unexpected and uninvited sex props; and just plain simple old messy drunk sex. Not cool.
While it’s tempting to say the best way to avoid a bad date/hookup is not to date/hookup at all, we’ll be realistic about it – people are always going to Date and Hook Up, so we’re going to offer some practical tips for risk reduction.
Here’s our Top 5 Gay Dating Tips on how to stay safe whilst Gay Dating and Gay Hooking Up, and still have a good time … Enjoy!
This isn’t cat fishing, this is being smart.
You can still keep it real without using your full name or divulging your personal details – you don’t want to be exposed to abusive or harassing behavior (or worse) if things go wrong.
Use the chat messaging service in the apps you’re using, and call from a public phone – of course, all these are only precautions before you actually get to know him and are sure you feel safe.
Can’t stress this one strongly enough, at least for the initial meeting – once you’re in his home on his territory, you lose much control of the situation, and that’s not something you want when you don’t even know who this person is.
Don’t meet in a secluded place either – try a bar or cafe where it’s reasonably busy so there are people around.
You might also want to resist inviting him to your place, as they might then have identifying information that can potentially be used to bully or threaten you.
You might also want to let a friend know who you’re meeting and where you’re going, just so there’s a buddy system in place.
I know it’s tempting, and everyone does it, right? Wrong.
Do a quick Google search and you’ll find sickening accounts of just how people have been held to ransom over such images – don’t hand that power over to a potentially dodgy stranger.
If you must send out pictures of yourself and want to include your face, consider upper torso shots only.
In other words, do not send anything you would not want your boss, your grandmother or your co-workers to see.
It might feel a little awkward at first, but anyone who’s equally open and upfront about their intentions will get it. You can always say you wanted to confirm the meeting place and check they were still there.
It’s a good way to do a quick initial screening of the person before even showing up – do they sound drunk or high?
Do you get a good feeling about this person? Or if they sound annoyed or impatient, are you going to be shown much respect?
If your instincts are telling you this isn’t a good idea, simply say you’ve had a change of heart and call it off. You’ll probably be doing yourself a big favor.
Yes, you’re definitely interested in hooking up with this person, but that doesn’t mean you’ve given the green light to everything this person might be into that you’re not.
Don’t feel like you have to go along with sudden twists in the plot, like roughplay or threesomes, if you’re not into the idea.
Also look out for cues and be aware of intent, for example, if he asks you if you’re “into partying”, it could indicate the use of drugs.
It’s your prerogative to call an end to a hook up if you don’t want to carry on – always trust your gut in such situations, and err on the safe side.
It’s great to date and meet more people to find your ideal Gay Dating and Gay Hookup relationship partners.
In so doing, there are some basic Gay Dating Rules and Gay Dating Advice you need to follow, to keep you safe and free from trouble.
Simply follow our valuable Gay Dating Tips above, and you’ll be able to enjoy your fun and fulfilling first dates and subsequent dates, without having to be unduly worried about your safety.
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