Online Dating: Understanding the New Age Online Dating Lingo (NSA, MBA, ONS, FB, FWB)
It’s easy to get swamped by a sudden surge of strange acronyms and new dating lingos that float around in this digital age, especially if one hasn’t been involved in the dating scene for a while.
If you’re looking at this article, you’re probably trying to figure out what terms like NSA, MBA, ONS, FB or even FWB mean. Everyone starts off as a rookie, but you’ll be a pro once you get to the end of this article. So read on … Enjoy!
Firstly, let’s start with the basic – FWB. FWB refers to ‘friends with benefits’. What are these benefits, you ask? Let’s just say that these are composed of sex, fun, and loads of exciting things that the both of you are willing to explore together.
While the term FWB relationship initially referred to genuine friends (or minimally, acquaintances) who later progress on to involve sexual escapades, its definition has taken on a broader spectrum of meanings in recent times. For instance, sites such as Fwbdr and Tinder market themselves as platforms for FWB hook-ups, and obviously these hook-ups are between strangers; not friends.
As such, the term FWB has evolved to a point where strangers could also meet up simply for the sex, so long as all parties involved are consenting of it. When 2 persons are in a FWB relationship, they may refer to each other as FBs (F*ck Buddies).
The next term, NSA – No Strings Attached is very much closely associated with FWB relationships. Simply put, we could say that the prerequisite of any FWB relationship is that it must have no strings attached (NSA) to it.
For starters, NSA is the number 1 rule for any FWB relationship; it means that all parties involved in the FWB should not have any form of emotional attachment or inclination towards one another. It also means that activities engaged in the FWB relationship should not involve any monetary gains (if you’re bonking prostitute, it’s a different thing altogether), and that it should not benefit any party indirectly beyond the relationship.
For instance, if a manager has been engaging in sexual escapades with his or her subordinate, the subordinate should not expect that things work in his or her favour in the office (although it would be a bonus if it does).
Such relationships are always mutually consented, void of any other benefits besides the orgasms, and there are no strings attached (NSA) to them. Any other perks that come along with FWB relationships are bonuses – remember that and spare yourself of any unnecessary heartaches!
MBA is self-explanatory – it is but a word of caution to those who still want to proceed with a FWB relationship despite the status being declared upfront. Take it as a disclaimer that any emotional attachment is completely out of the question, as this person whom you are going to meet is MBA.
He or she is just in for the sex, probably because their partner don’t satisfy them well enough. Such FWB relationships usually expect their FBs (F*ck Buddys) to be skilful in bed; so don’t take it too personally if he or she cuts you loose after the first session, You’re probably not good enough YET, and you can always practice. Remember that MBAs are likely to be veterans in the bedroom; they are probably tired of conventional and run-of-the-mill sex with their partners.
On the other hand, MBAs may also seek someone as an emotional pillar of support due to problems they face in their marriage – so just be careful that your FWB relationship with MBAs doesn’t evolve into the real deal. Draw the line if you must!
This one is slightly different from FWB relationships – while FWB relationships connote a short to mid, or even long-term prospect or expectation that there would be more sex encounters to come, ONS (One night stands) refer to one-off encounters.
In laymen’s terms, the acronym ONS means ‘let’s fuck and forget’. To look for an ONS is to be transparent with the expectation that nothing else should come after the orgasm. This also implicitly means NSA – no strings attached. Strictly, do not expect for ONS to progress into a FWB relationship.
Now that you have come to the end of this article, consider yourself graduated and ready to take on the exciting NSA dating world that is presented before you. Always play by the rules of the game, and enjoy them while it lasts. All good things will come to an end eventually, but it’s okay because you just have to look for more good things around you 😉 Good luck, and have fun!