First Date Tips: Here’s Our Top 10 Best Proven & Exclusive First Date Tips for Men
Scored a first date with your dream girl but feeling lost about what to do next? Here are 8 tips to increase your chances for a second date (and more)!
The place you choose sets the mood for your date. Unless you already know what kind of activity your date likes, it’s best to choose a neutral, low pressure place where you can focus on understanding each other and discovering your level of connectivity.
The last thing you want is to visit a lovely restaurant and realize even before the food arrives that you two cannot connect and it won’t work out. In this case, you will be trapped for the rest of the date in an awkwardly romantic environment. Instead of a dinner, suggest a bespoke bar or a new cafe. The casual atmosphere serves as a convenient environment to have a conversation without the stress to dress up luxuriously or buy a costly meal. If you feel uneasy or awkward, you can choose to leave after finishing your first drink. Conversely, you have the freedom to continue the date as long as you both want to if things proceed smoothly.
Planning an activity for a date provides something external for both parties to focus and bond over. Participating in a joint activity such as cooking, hiking, skating or visiting a museum, offers genuine conversation topics. In general, dating is less uncomfortable when parties are not fully focused on each other or are under stress to hold a conversation when meeting someone for a dinner or a drink. Choose an activity that shows your unique self and allows you to show yourself as a relaxed, fun and comfortable person.
Take a closer look at how you present yourself – the way you communicate verbally and without words. In fact, your non-verbal expressions (body language and facial expressions) are probably the largest way of communicating.
Sometimes you can feel out of control. How can you be aware of your body language and natural actions while trying to stay engaged in a conversation? The short cut is to stay aware of negative body language.
For example: If you are interested in what your date says, do not bend your arm. Tilt your head toward them. These are non-verbal cues that show your date that you like what they say and you want to listen to more.
If you want to know if your date is interested in what you are saying, look for similar behavior. Whether you are standing in front of the bar or sitting at a table, when your date leans towards you it is a distinct sign that they are interested. When lean far back in a chair or move away from you, it shows their unease.
Additionally, research has found that subconsciously, we point our toes in the direction we want to go. So if your date is interested and his/her toes are pointed towards you, it’s a good sign. But if their toes are facing the exit, they might not exactly be having the best time. If they cross their arms or if their feet are not facing you, you may want to switch topics.
Carole Lieberman, M.D., writer of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets once shared: “On a first date, touch should be limited and only natural, friendly, and warm – not sexual”.
In other words, you may gently help her out of your car, or guide her through a bustling cafe. But do not put your arm around her neck and make her feel obliged to be close to you all the time.
Some have advised against this, but we think this is a good icebreaker. Your date is probably nervous too, so admitting this can help to ease the pressure and break the ice. After all, you want to be able to be honest with each other.
Conversations should flow between both parties and not just be about yourself. Ask lots of questions to avoid being perceived as being uninterested or self-absorbed.
If you need some help, check out this list put together by 75 Creative First Date Questions to Ask Anyone.
Be honest and forthcoming, but don’t make your date your therapist.
Relationship counsellors and co-authors, Drs. Judith and Bob Wright advised: “Ease into talking about yourself—remember intimacy is a bit at a time.
Let him or her reveal a little, then you reveal a little”.
If you met your date on a Dating App, it is very natural for you to look at her social media profiles prior to the date to think of conversation topics.
Just ensure that you look at only those profiles that she shared with you, otherwise you might come off as stalker-ish if you mention something she did not share.
An interesting study conducted by Purdue University shows that tasting something sweet increases our attraction towards the other party.
If you want to end your date on a high, remember to order dessert.
If you enjoyed the first date and want to ask her out again, never say “We should do this again sometime.”
Ending the date with this sentence indicates lack of excitement and screams uncertainty. The lady will likely perceive the gentleman to be “testing the waters” because he is unsure and not brave enough to say what he intends. Instead, you should suggest future actions or ideas throughout the date to gauge her interest.
Example: During the date, if you think it is proceeding smoothly, say to her cheekily: “Next time we watch a movie, I am going to choose horror.”
This has a cheeky nuance to it, but more significantly, it indicates that you are PRESUMING that there will be another date without a lame question/statement limping at the end. Of course, what is regarded as cheeky depends on the context of your date.
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