Coming out was a battle but now finding a cute woman you want, seems even more challenging.
What more, you aren’t ready for anything serious and the world is your oyster! You’re young with no commitments!
And you want to enjoy all that while you can before thinking about something serious. And why shouldn’t you?
You’re not alone in exploring this option but how to find like-minded queer women in your area or maybe even connect with people of diverse gender identities and sexual orientations.
Dating apps will open up a world for you to widely connect online to a pool of potential partners and at the same time, help filter the unwanted is a must for lesbians.
According to recent Pew Research Center Survey, 78% of LGB online daters feel that dating sites and apps are a very or somewhat safe way to meet people despite experiencing any form of harassment. Plus, it is higher than the share of straight online daters who say the same (69%).
So, if you’re a lesbian single (and even attached or married lady), leverage on the convenience and effectiveness of lesbian dating sites to pursue gorgeous women and indulge in steamy NSA relationships and one-night stands.
Don’t waste time being thrown into the sea of dating apps meant for the heterosexuals, couples looking for a lesbian for a threesome, and filled with men.
Here are our top recommendations of lesbian hookup apps you can try to help you find your next casual steamy online-to-offline encounters!
Instead of being caught in the chaos of straight people in popular apps like Tinder, HER is designed for queen women by queer women so you don’t waste time filtering and swiping – minus your thumb falling off.
Founded by lesbian entrepreneur Robyn Exton, the app was originally named Dattch in 2013 and relaunched as HER.
HER exploded into a powerhouse dating app for more than 4 million queer women worldwide and raised a whopping $2.5 million in funding! Their goal is to create a more inclusive future for queer women.
The app is a great place to meet lesbians, bisexuals and queer people with their straight-forward approach of stating your sexual and gender identity.
Users also state on what they’re looking for including polyamorous relationship, something casual or even new friends!
With their community feature, you can choose a wide range of communities to find like-minded people who can lend a shoulder to cry on when you need advice.
Coming out of the closet can be a very distressing journey and they have a community catered just on this topic.
This has opened the doors further for this app of being more than a dating app. It is also part social media, so you can find awesome friends so you can send a “Friend” request instead too for those you think would be great friends!
The premium subscriptions are pretty steep so try the FREE account first before deciding to fork out the amount. It has sufficient enough of features on a free ride to navigate through the app.
A FREE account allows you limited swipes, give you matches according to your location and limited view of who have liked you.
You can also link your HER account to your Instagram or Facebook, which they will ask for access for your name, date of birth and photos to build your profile.
I would say that the most annoying feature of this is that you can’t skip the “Like” notification when someone likes you and freezes the screen until you open your notification tab. If you want to skip checking the notifications, you would have to exit the app, close and reopen it to continue swiping.
Apart from that, the app is a breeze to use since you would have perfected your thumb swipe workout from all that Tindering! Make those workout count by swiping here instead!
Lesly is highly recommended by lesbian dating experts and the dating community worldwide, which pique my interest in it.
It is a social network and dating app for lesbians, bisexuals and queer women.
Once you sign up, it will take 24 to 48 hours for the Lesly admin team to approve your profile and photo to be posted up to join the rest of its users. However, you can immediately explore the app in meantime.
When you sign up, you have limitless profiles to scroll down through versus swiping. I know this as our team kept scrolling down with no end to it!
The golden egg that I noticed on the get-go, is that unlike many dating apps out there, it allows you to meet with people worldwide and not confined to just within the radius of your location.
On a free account, you get to set your filter preferences to anywhere or even according to states of your country! So yay to limitless connections and if you prefer some on cam action versus hooking up physically.
The down side of a free account here is that you have limitations in private messages, can’t see who likes you and you don’t get the additional filtering features such as according to religion, ethnicity or if they smoke.
With the limitations of reaching out, you can send a “Wink” to anyone your fancy with an accompanied choice of automated message. Some of the choices of messages include “I’m interested! Would you please upload more photos?” and “I’d like to get to know you better! Message me!”.
Each profile here would state what they’re looking for in a match, whether they’re looking for friendship, dating, casual/intimate, long-term/serious relationship or even marriage.
This will take the guessing game out before you decide to “Wink” at someone or shooting a message to her (if you decide to pay for a premium subscription).
So, if you like to hook up virtually versus physically and expand your geographical-challenged lesbian circle, give this a shot!
Usage: Free on Android only, with in-app purchases starting from USD3.49. No iOS version and no website currently.
This “Spicy” app ranks high on Google and appears to be a go-to for some lesbians.
It promotes itself as chat and lesbian dating app to connect lesbian women and that they welcome diversity and encourage all lesbian, bisexuals and transgender (LGBTQ) singles to join in.
It utilises the swipe motion so prepare those Tinder thumbs for this! You get messages from people you like only so you don’t bothered by people you don’t want to connect with!
You would have to wait till the person likes you too before you are able to talk to start a conversation so patience is definitely needed here.
The app claims to verify profiles but always be cautious on any dating app and always do your necessary checks to weed out scammers and catfishes.
Reviews on this can get truly “spicy” as people who really love it can’t seem to say enough about it and those who dislike it usually finds the premium subscription to message someone a turn off!
So, give it a go first as everyone experiences differs from one another and you never know. You may score a cute girl here!
Usage: Free on Android only, with in-app purchases.
Fem is highly talked about in the LGBTQI community and with a tagline like “Meet hot single girls near you”, you can’t help but take a bite out of this app.
It differentiates itself by boasting as the “first video dating app for lesbians and bisexuals” and encourages users to upload their videos so that people will get a feel of your persona rather than just a still photo.
So, it’s fun to see what each person creates and will tell you a lot about the other person. Plus, it’s definitely interactive.
This would help weed out fake profiles as well so buh-bye scammers, fakers and catfishes!
As part of their pledge to create a safer online dating experience for the LGBTI community, Fem manually reviews every profile.
Other than that, it is a straightforward app where you like another girl and she likes you back and you start chatting and connecting. You get unlimited messages at your disposal for free!
If that isn’t enough, you can choose to date locally or internationally.
You can also send videos, audio and photos, which removes the need for you to bring the chat elsewhere or give your number when you’re not ready to.
Although Zoe is not marketed as a hookup app, we included it due its growing popularity and potential to find your next ONS.
It constantly receives good reviews on meeting new people, which always open doors to finding interesting people who may be looking for the same as you.
Zoe is another dating app getting into the social networking craze for the lesbian, bisexual and queer women.
This app may not be as popular as HER but it is certainly rising to fame in the LGBTQ community.
With a growing community of 3.5 million users and 4.5 rating in app stores, you will get a good mix of like-minded women nearby you!
Our team experimented with the app and was pleasantly hooked due to the huge variety of women there. Also, it doesn’t hurt that you meet a lot pretty women here.
The user interface is easy to navigate and gets straight to the point with its Tinder-esque swiping navigation to pick and choose who you want to pass and match with.
You can chat with people who mutually like you but to see who liked you, you would need a Premium membership to view them so you would need to hope for the best that they like you too.
There have been a lot of reviews of fake profiles in the app (the #1 enemy of dating apps) and plaguing men profiles looking for threesome, which we encountered ourselves, but they are making an effort to weed these app with the option of verifying profiles.
You can also do your part by blocking and reporting users you find to be fake or harassing you. This provides a more safe online dating environment for you and everyone else!
Overall, Zoe is a fun way to look for people who you would love to hookup with or find friendships near you!
You can always opt for a free trial to get a feel and taste of their Premium Membership before opting to fork out your cash for it.
After getting to know this app from friends and coming across raving reviews online, we think this was worth a spot in this review.
Taimi claims the position as the world’s largest LGBTQ+ platform.
It opens its doors to gays, lesbians, transgenders, and bisexuals with more than 7,000,000 real users.
People here will state what exactly they’re looking for with no time wasted. You can look for dates, chat or make new friends easily here.
This app is never lacking in new features to constantly hook you into coming back and earning a place on your home screen.
It adapts cool social media features where you can post stories and statuses so it’s almost like having another Facebook within the app.
With their Stories, you’ll see loads of TikTok videos of users that gives you a burst of ideas of the person’s personality. If that isn’t enough, throw in the Live Streams they offer, where you can send live comments with the other person.
Join groups of same interests share your thoughts, ideas, to freely express yourself, connect and set up your own support group. To name a few groups available, there are “Lesbians against patriachy” and “Lesbians’ sisterhood”.
This app throws in some fantastic challenges for users to engage one another and make great conversation starters (definitely helps if you struggle with opening lines) such as the #cosplay challenge taking place currently where users get a chance to win an Amazon Gift Card worth UD100.
We love that the app is serious about security and safety of its members. Who doesn’t hate the occasional catfish, right? To prevent scammers and fake profiles mushrooming in the app, Taimi has set up several verification options including linking your account to your Facebook, Snapchat and photos.
Another dead giveaway that this app is here to stay is a Feature Request where users can create or vote what upcoming features they would like to see in future. This creates a direct bridge with the Taimi team and helps them know which features to prioritise!
Overall, Taimi fits the bill when it comes to being able to have it all in one app.
While looking for your next fling here, it provides endless opportunities to build quality connections such as friendships and networking in the community.
If you’re looking a good night out or interesting conversations from other parts of the world, Scissr is definitely something you should pack on your phone.
It is no-frills app that was recommended to our team from lesbian friends.
With a name like Scissr, it definitely doesn’t waste time letting people know that they are not afraid of going out of the square.
The app is designed by lesbian for lesbians and is made for all- dyke, queer, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and bi-curious.
From the get-go, there were no men plaguing the app, which is something worth putting out there.
The look and feel of this app is straightforward and nothing fancy but gets the job done.
And just like its design, the app also encourages you to state what you’re looking for on your profile so you know exactly what the other person is looking for.
The filter feature is a nifty tool here as you have the option of choosing your distance, age, when they were last active on the app and age. You can always take it to the next level of filtering height and hair color.
And based our experience, the app presents really gorgeous women near and far. So, take your pick! You can opt for meeting up with someone nearby or meet like-minded people here.
The drawback of the app is that it can be slow to load sometimes and signing up can get tedious with only the option of logging in via Facebook as several attempts may be necessary to get on.
Gone are the days when OkCupid was limited in choosing between a male or female gender and only given options being straight, gay or bisexual.
Since 2014, OkCupid has rolled out 20 orientation options and 22 gender options available for users to choose from.
If you’re the type who prefers a more detailed description of your matches, definitely give this app a shot.
Plus, the more questions you answer, the better the Match Percentage works for you and is a good way to gauge your compatibility with them.
You can also check for people with the Highest Match Percentage or even those who answered the most OKCupid questions, easily by tapping on the icons at the top of the DoubleTake section.
No fuss when it comes to knowing who you should approach. You can straight away identify who are up for hookups in the users’ profiles so no risk of embarrassing yourself here.
If you’re not the type to wait around long for a reply, you can check out who has been recently online which tells you who has been active on the app.
If you prefer to filter according to locations, you can also easily find a section on people nearby!
For those of you who are in a non-monogamous relationship, you can link your profile to your partner’s but only one profile is allowed for now but you can always link them in your Profile Essays instead.
The down side of the app is you can’t see who likes you (unless it is a mutual like) and would need to pay to gain access to that.
However, with a Free account, you get tons of really good-looking women on this app so it’s worth exploring!
This was definitely an unlikely pick for lesbian dating but a recent report has shown that TikTok has become a safe space for young lesbians to open up about their experiences, get advice and unexpectedly, find their dates!
The New York Times has deemed “TikTok is the next Tinder” as it was a safe space for young lesbians where they can explore their sexuality especially those who have not come out of their closets.
Based on personal experience as a user, the LGBTQ community has been steadily growing in the app and openly sharing their intimate stories to the world.
Most comments have been positive and even encouraging to many, offering a great support system to many to not feel alone.
Tiktok will bring you lesbian centric content if you browse, search or create such content due to its algorithm. So, you don’t necessarily have to go out of your way to find lesbians there as TikTok brings them to you.
Head to TikTok and type in #lesbian and you’ll be blown away to find 18.6 billion views on this hashtag alone.
Other hashtags to give you get a headstart here are #lesbiantiktok, #tiktoklesbian, #lesbian and #lesbiansoftiktok.
Random videos such as a lesbian finding a like-minded person on the street while driving will tell you how anything is possible here.
You have nothing to lose by joining this app! You may want to jump on it for pure fun (the videos are really infectiously fun), engage with others in the community while seeing what happens if you do “bump” into an attractive lesbian along the way.
And you never know what could happen. You may make some new friends or take it up a notch to a hookup from there.
Give this a try and leave us a comment if this (or any of the apps) works for you!
Safety is paramount for many women and rightly so when it comes to online dating. We’ve heard the horror stories of meeting strangers from online dating and some really leaving a bad taste in the mouth.
Here are some tips you can do to protect yourself:
This is something told as old as time but always worth reminding. The first date should always take place in a public place and you can take the extra step of informing a good friend about the date.
This may be tempting especially if you want to calm your nerves when meeting a stranger. However, too much alcohol can keep you away from making good decisions and may give the wrong impression to your date.
Set up a video call before the first date to avoid catfishing or even run into guys who uses female profile pictures to lure lesbians into threesomes. If the other person is genuine, she would welcome this gesture as it protects her as well. This protects you further from any sour experiences including harassment.
(Last Updated: 9 September 2020)
About the Author
Kelvin Kevin is the Chief Marketing Officer and Chief Content Editor of the World-Renowned HappyMatches.com Dating App and Dating Site. An avid writer since young, he is an Expert Dating and Relationships Coach for Casual Dating, Serious Dating and General Dating. You can follow him on Twitter (@HowToDateBetter), and also check out his personal Dating Blog, for the latest Dating Advice and Dating Tips to help Straight, Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Singles and Couples find and enjoy Fulfilling and Intimate Dating Relationships.
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