Gay Couple: Understanding More about Surrogacy in a Gay Relationship & Gay Marriage
For many couples, whether straight or gay, having children is one of their major life goals.
With multiple states legalizing Gay Marriage across the country, the opportunity of having children for Gay Couples is no longer a pipe dream.
One of the most popular ways for Gay Men to have children would be through surrogacy, as it allows them to have a genetic relationship with their child and be there throughout the whole pregnancy process.
Surrogacy has a high success rate, is quick and it allows Gay Parents to have a higher level of options and oversight.
The surrogacy process is, in general, identical for both Gay Couples and single Gay Men looking to have children.
However, there are some considerations to take into account when taking on such a momentous decision in life.
For Gay Men, the pregnancy is usually done by using eggs from an egg donor and a surrogate mother for gestation.
Unlike straight parents, Gay Parents will have to decide who will be genetically related to the baby by deciding whose sperm is to be used.
One ingenious way to circumvent this is to have both parents donate their sperm to fertilize multiple eggs, allowing both men to be the biological father of the baby.
There are four common types of surrogacy, and we’ll briefly go through their differences below … Enjoy!
Traditional surrogacy is considered a less expensive option for gay men to have children, but it is not really common in the community.
In this case, the surrogate is both the egg donor and gestational carrier for the couple.
This means that the surrogate is the biological mother of the child, thus many gay couples do not opt for this unless they want the surrogate mother to be involved in the development of the child’s life.
Some gay couples will use one partner’s sperm together with eggs from the other partner’s close relative, to give both fathers a genetic link to the child.
In gestational surrogacy, a donor egg is fertilized by either partner’s sperm, and the resulting embryo is implanted into the uterus of the gestational carrier.
Thus, unlike a traditional surrogacy, the gestational carrier is not biologically related to the child.
This also reduces any legal complications that may arise.
Gestational surrogacy is the most common type of surrogacy for both gay couples and straight couples.
Altruistic surrogacy is a type of surrogacy, where the gestational carrier does not receive any financial compensation, other than medical costs and pregnancy-related expenses.
Usually, the surrogate is a close friend or family member of the Gay Couple.
This creates a very intimate, rewarding experience for both parties and there is a stronger sense of trust because the child is being carried by someone who cares for the couple.
However, some states do not recognize it as a form of surrogacy so some research should be done beforehand.
In commercial surrogacy, the gestational carrier is given a compensation fee for her role in carrying the child to term, and this compensation goes beyond medical costs and pregnancy expenses.
The compensation varies from person to person, but, commercial surrogacy is an expensive option thus any Gay Couple looking at this route should do a thorough planning of their finances.
In the United States, the average cost of a surrogacy depends on the type that is chosen.
The most common, commercial surrogacy, costs around $100,000 to $150,000 depending on the agency.
This huge variation in total cost is due to multiple factors.
The best way to get a rough estimate of the total cost, is to have a talk with a representative from a surrogacy agency.
Most of these agencies partner with lenders who offer different loans to allow Gay Men to afford the procedure.
There are also organizations that offer grants and financial support to potential Gay Fathers who cannot fully afford it.
Surrogacy is the ideal choice for prospective Gay Fathers who want a genetic link with their child.
It is a highly successful and can be a very rewarding process for both dads to be involved in the procedure.
This article serves as a brief introduction to surrogacy, and the needs will differ from couple to couple.
The best way to get more tailor-made information would be to locate a surrogacy center or agency and speak with a representative.
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